WHAT IS PERSONALITY ?
The sum total of your habit is your personality.
Habit is the sum of three elements namely knowledge, skill and desire.
Knowledge is your informative status and conceptual power.
Skill is action. Without activity there is no expression of skill. Skill is the practical wisdom.
Without goal the potentiality remains unutilised or underutilised. Hence personality development is the optimum utilisation of one's potentiality. Personality is the expressed ability of a person. Ability, if kept silent is good for nothing. Only an expressed ability has a social reflect. Hence one should know to express himself in the context of a society. This expression is socially readable. Readability is the marketability.
Gender Role: It is very difficult to break the gender role. It is to go on with the socially assigned duty. Both men and women have different role which is socially assigned. It is a social and cultural leaning. Men and women are different in dress and attitude. One cannot easily break the gender role. We may see that men and women have different dress code. If men is wearing Saree instead of dothi or pants it is viewed as absurdity and nuisance. Hence personality is related to keeping a correct status of gender role. . We should learn to behave in accordance with the place, person, time, etc. Gender role is decided by the society and by the prevailing culture. Hence it is a social andcultural requirement. It is not sex itself but sex related.
Factors of personality: Id, Ego, and super ego are the factors of personality.These three factors should work in harmony. There should not have any friction between these factors. The conflict between these three factors causes for anxiety and frustration. How to maintain harmony between these factors is a question. Id is biological instinct or internal instinct. Ego needs are based on reality principles. Super ego is related to moral governor. It is related to role of consciousness. In other words,consciousness works as the moral governor.
Insight: Insight influences one's outlook and attitude. Attitude decides altitude. There are atheists, materialists, spiritualists etc. One's insight is formed by his experience and learning. Insight determines the nature of personality. What he perceives decides his insight. He views the world with the light of his insight. Hence the insight is a light of his life.
Extrovert Personality: One may be extrovert or introvert in his nature. An extrovert is more expressive in behaviour. Extrovert is expressing his need and desire more explicitly. He is more frank while behaving in a social context. His self esteem is high with utmost confidence. He seeks help from his context freely without hesitation and shame. He is a proactive personality. He is assertive and always stand for his right. He does't want to abstain from his right just to make other people happy. He always tries to make him satisfied.
Will Power: Will power is the power of imagination. This power of imagination sets new goals to achieve. " Honesty is the best policy" to enhance your power of imagination. Willpower flourish in the root of honesty and empathy. Hypocrisy is the foul way of diplomacy. It is the negative energizer. Hence will power develop in the context of empathy , sympathy, friendship and co-operation. Only with will power you can set bigger target for achievement.
Assertiveness VS inhibition: Assertiveness is the symptom of positive personality. Positive personality is creative personality. Be assertive means stand for your right which you believe to be right. You have a strong policy ruled by your interest. While nurturing your interest see that it is not the vested interest. It should have social qualities also. Then only you can be a social creature. Let your social affiliation work in a positive way. It is witnessed by your social commitment. You need to sacrifice some portion your energy and power for the sake of the society. Your life is not a isolated phenomenon but a social one. You are part and parcel of this society. You are energizer of this universe and you get the energy from this universe. Both are interrelated and inter dependent.
When you are abstaining from your duty or suppressing your desire and right inhibition takes place.It leads to dissatisfaction. Dissatisfied personality is negative personality.
Target setting: Life without clearly defined target is a vain. Hence different target should be set. Achievement of these target need skill and implementation of your skill put you into higher degree of satisfaction. You should be free from Time pressure. Proper planning will help you to solve this problem.
Healthy family relations: Family is the place of " caring and sharing" Concept of health starts from family. In a broken family it is difficult to develop a positive personality. Problem families bring problem children.
