STRESS MANAGEMENT ~ PAYYATTAM

STRESS MANAGEMENT

PSYCHOLOGICAL TIPS

** Two types of stress- Distress and Eustress

** Distress is generated in the negative context

** Eu-stress is generated in the positive context

** When you fail an examination you may have stress which is Distress

** The death of your near and dear one may cause of distress.

** Big financial liability may bring distress

** sexual abuse and harassment may bring distress.

** When you win a lottery say, Rs. 1 crore you may have stress which is Eustress

** Because you are shocked with the prizes.

** Is there any life without stress? The answer is NO

** Hence stress is an inevitable mental state for survival and growth.

** It is an essential aspect of Business of Life

** Life is always Goal oriented

** Stress always walk along with Goal

** Then why the question of Stress management.

** When the stress becomes a threat to the normal style of life it is to be managed

CAUSES OF STRESS

** STRESS is mainly acquired. Acquired from the situation.

** It is mainly a product of social learning.

It has got subjective nature also.

** Subjectivity and Objectivity are interrelated.

** It is question GENERATED from relationship

** Relationship with man and material

** Hence Stress is mainly a social product.

** Stress is both subjective and objective

** Given situation or context does not bring stress to everybody facing that particular context.

** The degree of stress differ from persons to person in the same situation

** For Eg: Taking a Lift alone may bring stress to many people. And no stress at all for many others.

** Children fear about injection too much but elders do not.

** Skill and experience helps to manage stress

** Higher the skill lower is the Stress. Because skill is practical wisdom.

** Exposure to Experience is a best way of stress management

** Experience develops skill

** Hence stress is related to the style and power of insight.

** Stress is influenced by Id- Ego- Super Ego.

** If the Id- Ego- Super Ego is not working in harmony stress is the result.

** It simply means that one should not neglect the biological instinct., Ego needs, and Moral governor

** Cut throat competition bring stress/ competition even in common life produce stress

** Hence Avoid unhealthy competition.

** What is Unhealthy and Healthy is also subjective- It differ from person to person

** Time pressure also causes for stress

** Absence of planning brings Time pressure

** stress in its normal level is a state of dynamic mind

** Hence make the stress creative

** Too much orientation to ethics and morality causes for stress and moral anxiety

** Ego-centrism( Self centered attitude) also causes stress

** Aggressive nature of personality is another factor causing stress.

** Inhibition produces stress ( inhibition is the suppressed state of mind)

** Financial difficulty is another factor

** Marital disharmony, Loss of business, Risks of business, etc. are other causes

** Death of spouse or children /Dear and Near causes for stress and anxiety.

** Examination is the general cause for stress.

Failure in love affair causes stress

Love is nothing but the aesthetic taste of sex

Natural calamity

Threatening of War

** The list is not exhaustive. In short anything that goes to hurt ID - EGO- or SUPER EGO causes for stress

MANAGING STRESS

** The first condition to manage the stress is to identify the causes of stress

** Distorted ego brings stress and anxiety.

** Hence avoid poisons of mind - Angry, Hatred, Sad, Hostility, Jealous

** All these are root cause for ego distortion.

** Keep assertive state of mind- That is stand for your right.

** Learn to Say NO wherever and whenever, it is needed

** Because Humiliation brings Stress

** Humiliation brings inhibition- It is the suppressed state of mind-

** Inhibition causes stress

** Too Much orientation to super ego region brings stress

** Hence check your ethical status in a healthy way

** Never try to boost your personality

** Learn genuine Expression

** Avoid the habit of abstaining from your duty and responsibility

** Practice Surya samarkar two times every day( morning and evening 20 minutes)

** Practice anuloma-viloma pranayama every morning and evening 5 to 10 times

Enjoy action songs with action.

Play Rhythmatic exercises. like ZUMBA

** Learn Progressive Relaxation from a Counsellor

** learn positive Self Talk which will enhance your positive energy

I AM -HEALTHY WEALTHY HAPPY HANDSOM/PRETTY AND STRONG

** CONCENTRATE ON YOUR POSITIVE PARTS

** Deposit your Sub conscious with positive thoughts

** BE Proud of your Achievements

** Be optimistic

** The power of your subconscious decides your power of personality

** learn to appreciate other people.

** learn to enjoy the merits of other people.

** Be confident with your achievements

** Engage in creative activities- Avoid frequent idle sitting-

** Engage in agriculture, - vegetable farming

** Engage in sports

** Participate in debates and discourse

** Don't quarrel with people.

** Enjoy Action songs

** Enjoy it With or without Action

** Enjoy Hot water bathing

** Learn to enjoy sex in a positive way

** Avoid sexual inhibition

** Avoid day time sleeping

** sleep minimum of 7 hours at night(slight variation O,K.)

** Keep the family atmosphere friendly

** Learn Expressed love

** love is to express and enjoy and not an aspect to hide and suffer.

** Make the family atmosphere full of positive words and deeds

** Go for excursion with family or groups

** Avoid egocentricism

** Avoid time pressure- Learn Time Management

** There should have a Time schedule for every action.

** Achieve your goal by Step by step action

** Don't Be hurry

** Hurry make you worry

** Behaviour scanning

Every time a Negative element crop up throw it away

** Be empathetic

** Develop Social skill

** Avoid procrastination- Everything is postponed for a future time.It is a negative habit

** Avoid immoral interests( it is trespassing the interest of other people)

** Learn that "freedom is the accommodation of interest."

** Hence Learn to ADJUST AND ADAPT

** Intelligence is ADAPTABILITY

** May practice Meditation- Not essential

STRESS MANAGEMENT

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